Showing posts with label handmade cards. Show all posts
Showing posts with label handmade cards. Show all posts
Monday, December 11, 2017
101 Ways To Live Better: Stop Spending Money On Shit
Welcome to my 101 series, which explores 101 little things you can do to improve your day to day life, and the world, just a little bit.
Our fifteenth post is: STOP SPENDING MONEY ON SHIT
Did you know there are $30 subscriptions you can sign up for where a bot scans sites like amazon and ebay for items under a dollar with free postage and ships them to you automatically? One a day, every day, so you have the joy of opening packages?
You don’t know what these things are. You don’t need them. However, they are paid for, wrapped in packaging that will become landfill, shipped in trucks, boats and planes that require fuel and create pollution, for… what? For you to have the momentary joy that comes from opening a package? Then what? All that stuff clutters your home, or you throw it out, or you give it away.
This terrifies me. This is consumerist culture at its most extreme. Cutting out even the joy of shopping, of finding, of wanting and just cutting right to ‘having’. A momentary rush of dopamine and adrenaline.
Evolutionary psychologists tell us shopping has biological roots. Particularly if we believe the idea that men are hunters and women are gatherers. Seeking food and resources was vital to human survival, it is a behaviour that evolution has to reward, to keep the species alive. However, fruit and honey has been replaced with handbags, knick nacks, and in my case, fluffy socks.
Acquiring things we want gives us a rush, in the same way calorie dense foods give us a rush, because it is good for our long term survival. However, we have created a world where we can go to huge buildings full of things we want, more than we can possibly have, and we can get that rush whenever we want, as often as we want.
But what we can’t do is house all the crap we have brought. Our crap buying and consuming is not sustainable. It's dangerous. And despite the rush we get, it offers us no long-term benefits. What did you impulse buy in April last year? You can’t tell me. What about June when you were 17? December 5 years ago?
Research suggests you are better off spending money on experiences, not possessions. Read Mari Kondo’s ‘The Magic Art Of Tidying Up’ which will give you a new perspective on how you view the objects in your home and their value.
And if you are going to impulse buy, try and buy things that are helpful rather than harmful. Buy from local, family run businesses. Buy plants and make your neighbourhood greener. By ethically sources, biodegradable things. Stay away from chain stores, plastics and clothes made from unnatural fibres. Buy second-hand, from charity stores. Learn to cook and splurge on exotic fruits and meats (preferably ones without too much packaging) or buy for community kitchens and help cook for people who need it. Impulse buy digital books instead of physical ones, and feed an author, while saving a tree.
But remember, in the long term, you are more likely to remember the great time you had when you hired kayaks and went out on the lake with your family than you are to remember how awesome it was when you brought another dress and heels. You won’t even remember what you were wearing during your best, happiest memories (your wedding notwithstanding, but I honestly can’t remember what a single one of my friend's wedding dresses looked like, all I remember is how happy they looked).
Be happy. Stop spending money on shit. For everyone’s sake.
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Friday, July 6, 2012
Romance 101 – Week 6
I’m getting pretty excited. My first book is released on the
23rd of this month! There are already reviews up around the place
and a few give away competitions happening. It’s so wonderful and surreal!
Anyway, on with the blog:
Romance Tip 06
- Leave a special
message in a book.
Dating? Write a
short, sweet love note for your partner and slip it in the book they are
reading, a few chapters ahead of their bookmark. Just a simple ‘I love you’
will be enough to make them smile. Take the time to make sure the paper is cut
nicely and not torn and aim for legible penmanship. You could even sprits the
paper with your signature perfume or cologne.
Does your partner only read on an e-reader? You can do the
same thing by flipping ahead a few pages, and writing a note—if the e-reader
has that capability. Most do, but I recommend you google exactly how to do it, depending
on which device your partner has. Make sure you add your name!
Single? Write a
short note to a friend, reminding them they are beautiful and talented and slip
it in the book they are reading when they aren’t looking. Be sure to put their
name at the top and your name at the bottom. You never know, it might be the
book their partner is reading, and that could get you into all sorts of
trouble!
You can do the same on their e-reader, if it has the capability.
You could even lend them a book and slip the note in before you give it to
them.
Remember! These
notes can take a little while to find. I’d been holding off telling a boyfriend
that I loved him and had told him on no uncertain terms that I didn’t want to
hear him say it first. Eventually I leant him a book with a note in it
confessing my affections. It took him two weeks to find it—and then he called
me at 2am in his excitement. It took a lot of self control not to ask how he
was going with the book, but it was all worthwhile.
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Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Romance 101 - Week 3
ROMANCE TIP 03:
- Take a class/do a
workshop together.
Single? Grab a
friend and find and amazing class or workshop you can take together. Most
workshops will be related to a creative activity (cooking, art, craft goods) or
a sport (dancing, fishing, self defence). You’ll also be able to find special
interest workshops, such as wine tasting, cheese making or dairy farming. Check
newspapers, community centre online notice boards, local council websites,
universities, TAFEs and local arts centre websites to find courses that
interest you, or just google your area and see what comes up.
Here’s a quick list of things I can think of that would be
awesome fun to do.
- Life drawing classes
- Oil painting classes
- Photography classes
- Knitting classes
- Rock climbing classes
- Cooking classes
- Wine tasting classes
- Gardening classes
- Writing workshops
- Dance classes
- Self defence classes
- Wood working classes
- Pottery and sculpture classes
- Defensive driving classes
- First Aid classes
- Craft classes
- Martial arts classes
- Sailing classes
- Yoga workshops
- Better sex/couples workshops
- Digital art/photoshop classes
- Website design classes
- Landscaping workshop
- Renovating workshop
- Massage workshop
- Installing and maintaining a pond or water-feature
workshop
- Pilates workshop
- Acting classes
- Singing classes
- Editing digital videos workshop
- Bookmaking classes
- Scrapbooking workshop
I could do this all day. There are so many classes and
workshops around—if you can’t find one that interests you, you must be a very
dull person!
Dating? If you’re
dating, it’s important to find something that interests you both. Or perhaps
you can broaden each other’s horizons by each picking a different class and
surprising one and other with it. However remember it’s not a punishment, you
want to find something the two of you can have fun at together. Getting out and
doing something interesting and different will bring novelty back to the
relationship and give you something else to talk about. And something like
dance, massage or sex classes will likely spice things up in other areas of
your life too!
Remember! New experiences
and novel activities keep the brain healthy and active. With any kind of
relationship, romantic or otherwise, it’s easy to get stuck in a rut. We all
have our habits and most of us have jobs that keep our schedule pretty consistent.
If you don’t mix it up every so often, you might as well be a dairy cow. But
workshops not only get us out of the house and somewhere new, they also teach
us something and maybe introduce us to a new passion in life!
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Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Romance 101 - Week 1
Hello
there! And welcome to my first ever blog post.
Every week,
typically on Wednesday (Tuesday for the Americans!) I will be writing a new post
on tips to up the romance in your life. Each tip will have a solo version for
all the single people, and variation for those with a partner. As much as possible,
they will be written in a way that is accessible and applicable to men, women,
gay and straight people. Romance does not discriminate! Romance is for
everyone.
ROMANCE TIP
01:
- Post a handmade card.
Single? Go to an arts supply store, collect some old
magazines and make someone a handmade card. You don’t need a great reason to
send one. Choose a friend or family member who has been sick, overworked,
tired, sad or lonely and write a little message that says something like: “This
card is to remind you how awesome you are.”, “Just to remind you you are
appreciated.” Or “This is for being you.”
My number
one best tip here is to google ‘handmade cards’ and look at the image search.
Find a design you think is awesome and pretty much copy it, sequin for sequin.
Do this before you go to the art supply store, so you know what you’re looking
for. You can also spray some perfume or cologne on the card before you post it.
Whoever receives
your card will be touched someone was thinking of them. It will make their day
and I promise making someone else feel loved will make you feel fantastic.
Dating? Most of us tell our partners we love them every
day, however taking the time to not only make them a card, but then to post it will
be a charming surprise. It does help if they’re the one checking the mail! Don’t
just say that you love them in the card, say that you appreciate them—be specific.
“Thank you
for looking after me while I was sick.” Or “Thank you for driving when I had a
headache last week.” Will make the card seem more sincere, and it will
encourage them to be thoughtful again in the future.
Remember!
In the same
way smiling at a stranger will give you both a rush of endorphins and make you
both happy, doing romantic and thoughtful things for others will make your life
feel as if it is full of romance. Giving is as good as receiving and I promise
the more you give to people, the more you will get in return.
Just
remember to give for the sake of giving. If you act only because you want
something in return, people will sense it and you’ll be left feeling frustrated
and unappreciated. Practise selflessness and the universe will reward you with generous
abundance.
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